Thursday, 11 October 2012

Why Devout is still not Out...



This blog post is my reflection on Mr. Devdutt Pattanaik's following article:
Admittedly, his musings on mythology and their analogies to contemporary management have captured my rapt attention for long, but this is the first instance when it invigorated the writer in me.  

As usual, an awesome article by Devdutt! Though, I fail to completely affiliate to the line of thought. When I first read the article, I couldn’t help but recall Adiga’s (in the White Tiger) snide at Hanuman and his rebuking of the Hindus for idolising a ‘servant’. Devdutt raises the bar and aligns the Hanuman of mythical folklore with an obedient, brilliant and hardworking employee. Devdutt then goes on to allude, and later elucidate with examples that sheer obedience on Hanuman/Employee’s part is not enough, it must be supplemented by originality and acting on one’s own free will. This is where I draw the lines of diffidence from his viewpoint.

The first case is that Hanuman/Employee is a new entrant into the Ramayana/Company and should assume the role of a learner. He should learn from his job rather than questioning the intentions of Ram or the vision of his Company. He will certainly get the due answers, but at the cost of compromising his learning and performance. Hanuman/Employee, indeed, consistently needs motivation/direction in the forms of Jambavan/Rama/Sita but that does not indicate lack of originality, it shows eagerness to obey and achieve.

Another example is that of Hanuman not rescuing Sita and averting the war, which Devdutt deems to be an opportunity lost. The war was inevitable as it not only involved rescuing Sita, but also signified the upholding of righteousness over evil-which could be achieved only if the going followed its due course. Had Hanuman interfered with his sheer courage, he would have launched a car, not a Nano! (What Nano ended up as is quite similar to what happened to Sita, but that’s a different story altogether!)

Also, most importantly, it was not Hanuman/Employee’s job to rescue Ram’s wife. An employee is not supposed to bypass hierarchical levels and perform his superior’s job. Instead of gaining brownie points, he would end up with a partially baked cake- detrimental to both his personal growth and the Company’s well-being. Instead, he should selflessly and assiduously concentrate on the task at hand, displaying exemplary creativity and sheer brilliance within the respective purview. Doing so, indeed, would catapult an unknown monkey to the rank of a god- much more revered and adored than his divine master himself!

Wednesday, 11 July 2012

Assertiveness-Then & Now...


As the legend goes, Sudama did not reveal his abject poverty to his friend & lord, but Krishna read his mind & granted him all he had wished for, but not asked! Moral of the Story: God knows what you want, do not be too shameless to demand/beg for it.

All of us have listened to this tale as kids, and somewhere imprinted in our minds that we shall be offered on a plate what we desire, if we pray/wish for the same. No need for asking!

But alas! The real world does not function in the same good ol' fashion. You have to open your mouths, ask, demand, beg and do all what it takes to achieve your coveted goal. No wonder corporates insist on the value of assertiveness. It is the right combination of pleading and fighting (gurus call it negotiating!), a perfect balance of sharp words and silent but sharper gestures. Whether you want a raise from your boss, a selection in an interview, a contract from your client, help from your colleague or even want the office boy to scan your papers first... assert yourself!  Ever felt 'I should have said that', 'he just manipulated me & i couldn't say no', 'how come none of what i want ever happens', 'i couldn't say what i wanted to'... well, there you are!

Assertiveness is different from communication. Communication is merely about conveying your message to the other person (extremely important though), assertiveness is about convincing him of your point.

I'm no management guru, but have learned a few gems in this field during my work stint. Sorry, no college can teach you this, you've got to be working in an hierarchical organisation to even realise its meaning! Here are my key learnings (Disclaimer: Even after loads of tutoring & reprimanding by my boss and despite the n no. of training sessions attended, i've taken long strides, but not perfected the art!) I've employed these (or at least tried to!) during vendor negotiations, client meetings, departmental discussions, and even everyday work to some extent.
  • Firstly convince yourself of what you want! This requires a lot of brainstorming before developing a clear picture of what you want. Work out all the nitty-gritties.
  • Next, try to gain as much knowledge and information (relevant to the issue) as possible. Knowledge, agreed, can never be complete, but know enough to encompass all possibilities. So, do your homework well!
  • Keep the info concrete & handy. Try not to leave any loose strings. Be objective.
  • What knowledge can’t, let your words do! Try to think of all the opposing points and prepare your answers accordingly.
  • Test the waters first. Listen! The other person too is technically in the same oat as you are. If you know the person well, employ words & tactics that have worked on him before. If you are meeting for the 1st time, study the person, but refrain from judging him.
  • Never get personal! Act professional and state only the facts! Keep a check on your tone & volume. At no point in time, get rude or lose you temper.
  • Say no. Directly. On the face. And don’t budge.
  • It's not necessary to win every argument. You can lose many battles, but concentrate on winning the war!
  • Negotiate.
  • Let go of arguments that you are losing. Change the topic & come back later if you want. Don't let your opponent do this to you.
  • Lastly, remember this is not the end of the world. Even if you lose, your life won't end. This realisation keeps you from getting desperate.

This list is obviously non-exhaustive, but hope it helps!

Saturday, 7 July 2012

Chak de Fate!



This is a lesser known sub-plot of the epic of Ramayana. The story goes like this... There was once a very wicked Asura who used to torment saints and commoners. (Have you noticed, by the way, that every second Hindu mythological story begins thus! Sorry, coming back to the story...) One day, he met a wise saint and had a sudden change of heart looking at the serene disposition of the seer. He begged the saint to absolve him of all his sins and grant him salvation. The wise man recalled the Asura's sins and asked him to follow the path of penance. He said that the Asura's sins were so great that they could be cleansed away only if Goddess Laxmi would appear under him and Lord Shiva above! What did it mean? Did it happen? And how?

The Asura was reborn as a tree. In the Ashoka Vatika in Lanka. The one under which Sita was seated. And the salvation point came when Hanuman perched on top of the tree when he found her!
Wow!

Retracing the steps... so it was all predestined. Hanuman finding Sita, Ravan kidnapping her, Ram going to exile... So if it was pre-wriiten, why do you blame Ravan for kidnapping her? Or Sita for crossing the Laxmanrekha? Or Kaikeyi for inciting Dashrath? Or Dashrath for killing Shravankumar? Or worse still, did these characters do what they did by their own thought or choice, or because it was fatalistically predetermined?

Going by the same logic, is everything in our life too predecided? Where do our choices, actions or free will stand in that matter? Are we merely puppets in this play, following the prewritten script with no inputs of our own?

A little brainstorming, and i cleared my perspective. (Disclaimer: My personal opinion, completely. You may agree or disagree.) Life is a series of equations with constants and variables. The constants are events/incidents you cant change-they are pre-imposed on you. The variables are the decisions you take & the choices you make. They are key in determining the future constants of your (& others') equations.The situations that arise are the culmination of each equation.

For example, let us look at the Asura. He had a choice to make: to repent for sins or not. If he chose the latter, he would not have been part of this story. But he chose the former & created a 'constant' for his future-the salvation point. This constant also became manthatory for Laxmi & Shiva to materialise. They could have merely appeared (as Bramha generally does) to bless the Asura, but they chose to be part of a greater plot. Again, going in flasback mode. Had Ravan not kidnapped Sita, had the situation materialised? Why not, he could have simply invited Ram & his consort along with his deity Shiva/Hanuman to bless him & absolve his own sins. He chose otherwise. The constant remained, but the equation changed! Had Dashrath or Kaikeyi made alternative choices, Ram still might have gone to the forest -for expedition, not exile! The plot would not be affected, but their lives would have been considerably different.

Guess it works for us too! Folklores & myths are subject to interpretation after all. And talking about parallel worlds... Well next topic, next time!

Tuesday, 26 June 2012

What Girls Really Want!


Girls love shopping.
Dresses, jeans, tees, pants, shirts, skirts, sandals, slippers, stilettos, purses, handbags, clutches,
lipsticks,
accessories,
jewellery.
And gossiping.
Light hearted banter.
Every single girl secretly wishes she were born a boy … a secret no one knows!
Girls love being praised. Being called beautiful, not pretty!
They can read your minds, eyes and hearts.
They read between words, more often than they should...
Girls like being protected, but not possessed.
They like if you open the door, move the chair, pay the bill... 
Not because they can’t,
Because they love the feeling that someone's there to take care of everything...
They like walking independently, but secretly wish there was someone who could hold their hand and lead on...
If you compliment the same thing too often it tends to become redundant.
But as I said,
Girls read between the lines and never forget.
They see the intention behind the compliment. They may appreciate it,
But are not very good at expressing it.
Not assertive enough, you really need to coax them or be close enough!
And they are shy... more than you can imagine!
Girls are emotional, emotional fools.
They’re shy, afraid. They laugh at your face, but weep behind your back. They are mean to you, but their heart kills them for that.
They love the male gaze on them… They work hard for that!
They hate it when you praise another girl in front of them. And yes, they are jealous, but won’t admit it.
They don’t care about the dates of birthdays or anniversaries. They care more whether you remember the best moments or not…
Girls bitch. A lot.
They cry. A lot more.
They have weight issues. And hair issues. And girl issues. And guy issues. Always.
The mirror’s their best friend. They want a better one in your eyes.
They drink, smoke, watch porn just like guys. If they don’t, they want to. And not be judged about it.
They wish their guy could say 'I love you' more often. At least one in every ten times they feel it. And that’s pretty many!
Just put his arms around their waist, and gaze into their eyes...
They want their knight, prince, king and Edward Cullens all rolled into one. Just like they want to be Miss World.
Girls are childish, immature, illogical. Actually they’re not. They love your reaction when they act so!
They don’t give a damn about gadgets or cars or sports, but love it when you explain it to them.
They love chatting, flirting, dating.
They love their guy friends. Who understand everything. Especially their limits.
They like being prodded, coaxed. They need it. 
They want someone to keep saying everything's okay. Someone to hold them when they fall.
They like it if someone fights for them, protects them, gives them a coat.
They want a hand to hold, a shoulder to rest their head on and strong arms to hug them tight.
They are not Sita. Nor a slut. And would appreciate if you accepted that too!
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